I have been dating my boyfriend for some years now and this summer we are living together in a small, I mean really small, apartment while he goes to classes and I work. We spent a lot of time, as much as possible in other words, together before this summer but we have never formally lived together. The first week it was great. I loved knowing he would be right there in the morning and when I went to bed again at night. We got to make our meals together, spend all our freetime with eachother and overall just enjoyed eachothers company.
It has been a couple more weeks now that we have been living together and I am starting to realize why people say that in this day and age you should live together before you get married. It would be nice to know ahead of time all the things the other person will do that will drive you absolutely crazy. For example, he leaves the toilet seat up! He explained that it took just as much energy for me to put it down as it takes him to put it up and its just something I should get over. I responed that I wasn't going to get over it, so he promised to put it back down. I guess he just didn't promise to remember the promise. It drives me crazy.
He has tons of little bathroom habits that drive me crazy but there is one that makes me want to scream. He climbs out a shower, where he just got all clean mind you, and uses a towel to dry off. Now in my mind that towel could be used to dry off with again, but he is convinced it is dirty and can't be used again. I would understand if he liked to spend time in the towel, before/after the shower for a while but he touches the towel WHEN HE IS CLEAN for maybe two minutes tops. Now some people out there may agree with him that it is dirty but there is another aspect to this issue. We live in a small apartment with having to go to a laudramat to clean our clothes and other stuff. It costs $3 for a load to be washed and cleaned. We are young and broke, and he showers twice a day and I shower once. Not only that, we own 8 towels because he is cheap and doesn't believe we need others. The towel could be used twice and save some time and money!
I know this probably sounds stupid to most people in the world but these dumb little things drive me crazy! Maybe I wouldn't be so crabby about this though if he didn't hit me in the head with the pillows he throws around at night. Peaceful sleep would be nice.
So the point of this entry, besides a little bit of ranting, is to share the advice my mother gave me. "Before you marry someone, live with them first because bills and marriage sounds easy unless you take into account all the little stuff that will drive you crazy."